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Talking to a parent about wills, finances, incapacity, and end-of-life wishes can be uncomfortable. Parents may view questions about their estate plan as intrusive, while adult children may worry that raising the subject will sound insensitive or financially motivated.
Despite that discomfort, a respectful conversation can prevent confusion during an emergency or after a death. The goal is not to learn what you will inherit. It is to make sure your parent has a plan, that the right people know their responsibilities, and that important documents can be located when needed.
Why This Conversation Matters
Without advance planning, a family may have to make important decisions without knowing what their loved one wanted. They may not know whether a will exists, who should manage the succession, or who has authority to act during incapacity.
A complete Louisiana estate plan may include more than a will. Depending on the person’s circumstances, it may also include:
- A trust
- A financial power of attorney, known in Louisiana as a mandate
- A health-care power of attorney
- A living will or other advance directive
- Beneficiary designations
- Instructions concerning digital accounts or personal property
These documents address different problems. A will operates after death, while powers of attorney and advance directives may become important during a person’s lifetime.
How to Start the Conversation
Choose a calm time rather than waiting for an illness, hospitalization, or other crisis. The discussion may be easier if you explain why you are asking.
You might begin by saying:
- “I am working on my own estate plan and realized I do not know whether you have one.”
- “If something happened and you could not speak for yourself, who would you want us to contact?”
- “I do not need to know what is in your will, but I want to make sure we could find the right documents.”
- “Is there anything you would want us to know in an emergency?”
Approach the conversation as an offer to help, not a demand for information. Your parent may be willing to confirm that a plan exists without discussing beneficiaries, account balances, or other private details.
If the subject becomes uncomfortable, it may be better to pause and return to it later. A series of shorter conversations can be more productive than trying to resolve every issue at once.
What Information Does the Family Actually Need?
Adult children do not necessarily need copies of every document or a complete list of their parents’ assets. At a minimum, however, someone trustworthy should know:
- Whether a will or trust exists
- Where the original documents are stored
- How to contact the estate-planning attorney
- Who has been named as executor or trustee
- Who holds financial and health-care decision-making authority
- Where important financial and insurance records can be located
- Whether the plan has been reviewed recently
Knowing where the original will is stored is particularly important. Under Louisiana Code of Civil Procedure Article 2853, a person possessing a document that appears to be the decedent’s testament must present it to the court, even if that person questions whether the document is valid.
The Louisiana Secretary of State’s End-of-Life Registry page also explains the state’s will-registration and living-will-registration programs. The will registry records information about where a will is kept; it does not store the actual will.
The people named as executor, trustee, or agent should generally know that they have been selected. A person who is surprised by the appointment—or who is no longer willing or able to serve—may create avoidable difficulties when action is needed.
Estate Planning Is Not Only for Older Parents
These conversations are important for adults of every age. Parents of minor children may need to nominate a tutor and plan for the children’s financial support. Families caring for a child with a disability may need more specialized planning to protect eligibility for public benefits.
Unmarried couples also need deliberate planning. A committed partner does not receive inheritance rights under Louisiana’s intestate succession rules merely because the relationship has lasted for many years. Our article on how estate planning protects unmarried partners discusses this issue in more detail.
When Should an Existing Plan Be Reviewed?
Having signed documents is not the end of the process. An estate plan should be reviewed after major changes such as:
- A marriage, divorce, birth, adoption, or death
- Moving to or from Louisiana
- A significant change in assets
- The purchase or sale of a business
- A change in family relationships
- The incapacity or death of a named executor, trustee, or agent
- A serious medical diagnosis
- Changes in the law
A review is especially important when a plan may involve Louisiana’s forced-heirship rules. Louisiana Civil Code Article 1493 identifies the descendants who may qualify as forced heirs.
Beneficiary designations should also be reviewed because some accounts and insurance benefits pass according to those designations rather than the will.
A person who has created a trust should confirm that the appropriate assets were actually transferred to it. Creating a trust document alone does not necessarily keep property out of succession. Learn more about how trusts can help an estate bypass probate.
Field Law Can Help
Estate-planning conversations are easier when the family has accurate information about the available options. Field Law helps Louisiana individuals and families prepare and update wills, trusts, mandates, and advance health-care directives based on their particular needs.
Whether you are planning for yourself or helping a parent recognize that an older plan needs attention, contact Field Lawto schedule a consultation.
